Being a Human Being

Tonight I spoke with a caregiver. His mother has dementia and lives in a local nursing home. Previously she had been in assisted living, but it was obvious she needed more care. And it’s obvious she is progressing.

He doesn’t know what to do.

I get it. Many of us are programmed to take action. We want to fix. We want to solve. And we take pride in fixing and solving.

But sometimes there is nothing to fix or solve.

You didn’t cause dementia, and you can’t cure it. If you are like me, you think you must be missing something. Maybe there’s some puzzle to solve and you haven’t cracked it yet. There has to be answer. Perhaps if you read more books. Or look at more Facebook pages (please don’t do this).

I want to tell you it’s okay to stop. It’s okay to stop and be. Just…