With it being Memorial Day, I remember how my family used to visit the
local cemetery in our town. We didn’t know anyone buried there, it was just a quiet place for us to walk and reflect. Dad loved the history of cemeteries, and would look for the oldest graves, or would seek out those who had been casualties of war. He would spin a yarn about how they may have been lost, which battle of World War II or Vietnam they might have met their end in, etc. Of course, we didn’t know the real stories, but as a child, it didn’t matter to me. Dad was well-versed on war history, so he was able to make his stories convincing.
Mom, being the sentimental type, would mourn over the tiniest graves, those belonging to newborns or small children who had probably perished from disease or accident. These would make me sad as well, because it was hard for me to understand someone so young could die.
Every day of my dad’s final hospital stay in Albuquerque, I would pass by a cemetery. I found it morbidly ironic, throwing a fleeting glance over at the weathered stones, thinking that my dad could be joining their ranks at any moment. I never had time to take a stroll through the cemetery, as by day’s end, spending several hours by my father’s bedside while trying to console my mom, I was emotionally spent and just wanted to retreat to my hotel room.
But when I visit most towns, especially one with a deep and rich history, like Savannah, I make a point of visiting the cemetery. It’s certainly not everyone’s cup of tea, but there is something very peaceful and spiritual about visiting a land filled with the dead.
2 responses to “A visit to the cemetery”
I love cemeteries too, my friend. Something quiet, calming, reflective, restorative, and empowering for me. I didn’t know your Dad was in Albuquerque. . . I lived their while going through grad school. Oh, how hard itnismto reverse roles, watching one lose life’s journey while. Omforting the other–trying so hard to be the strong one. This is such a wonderful project.
I have been at a loss about what to do with my yakkergirl blog– but I think you have given it new life– a chance to post memories and photographs of Dad, our childhood camping trips, playtime in the yard, etc. thank you for that gift, my newfound friend.
Thank you for the kind comments. Yes, my dad was in Albuquerque for the last 2 months of his life … a long way from his birthplace of Belfast, Northern Ireland!
What a great idea for your blog, it’s a great way to preserve treasured memories and share them with others.