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10 Early Signs of Alzheimer’s

It’s easy to slip into denial when Alzheimer’s enters your family’s life. The symptoms can be so subtle at first, but being aware of early warning signs can help you find treatment that may be effective in keeping the disease progression at bay for as long as possible. Please learn the signs and share with others.

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The Alzheimer’s Association suggests people experiencing any of the disease’s 10 early warning signs should see a doctor. (Learn the 10 warning signs of Alzheimer’s disease.

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Playing the symptoms game

Today is Mom’s 77th birthday. With all we’ve been through as a little family over the last several years, I now make it a point to visit her in person on each birthday. It sounds morbid but really, for any of us, we don’t know if this birthday will be the last.

Things have been going along pretty well over the last year, in regards to Mom’s health. Her colonoscopy at the end of 2013 brought good results — a couple of polyps removed, nothing otherwise suspicious spotted.

In March, her CEA level was up just the slightest bit. But with no other symptoms, the oncologist saw no reason for concern, saying it it continued to rise on the next visit in July, then he would order a scan.

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Over the last couple of months, Mom’s had some issues with her GI system which had returned to a remarkable functioning state after her two surgeries in 2012. Most concerning is the tightness she feels in her abdominal area. She’s also had some dizzy spells and tends to get tired quicker. Her appetite is not quite as strong as it was either.

So I’ve been playing the symptoms game since that time, Googling her symptoms and various combinations of her symptoms. Her symptoms are similar to both the first time she got sick (colon cancer) and the second time (hernia). Obviously, we’d all take another hernia over another bout of cancer, but the symptoms game is long and drawn out.

It can throw you a loop and be something completely unexpected.

Her stomach looks a bit distended when she’s sitting or standing but not anywhere near the level it was when she was sick. I felt her stomach when she was stretched out on the bed and thankfully it felt pretty soft to me, so I don’t think she has another colon obstruction. Yet.

Her oncologist appointment is this Wednesday. Unless he can obviously feel a hernia, Mom will probably have to go for some sort of scan and then more waiting around for the results. So the symptoms game keeps going on …

I hate playing the symptoms game, but I hate even more when the symptoms game ends.

Then you are faced with the diagnosis.

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Bathing & Alzheimer’s

Great tips on how to make the dreaded bath easier for you and your loved one with dementia.

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Bathing is a necessary aspect of life. However, when someone is caring for a loved one affected by a progressive dementia like Alzheimer’s, bathing can seem like an insurmountable challenge. Below are some reasons why difficulties may occur during the bathing task, and also some tips on how to overcome these challenges.

Reasons for resisting bathing:

  • May not know what bathing is for
  • May feel afraid or cold
  • May experience discomfort at the lack of modesty
  • May have had a traumatic experience related to water (e.g., drowning, burns from scalding water)

Tips to help with bathing:

  • Have toiletries, towels and washcloths available in advance to make the bathing process easier
  • Keep the room temperature warm and reduce bright lights
  • Make the person feel in-control — involve and coach through each step of the bathing process
  • Experiment to determine if the person prefers showers or tub baths and what time of…

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Guest post: Diagnosing Alzheimer’s Disease: How Can Loved Ones Help?

A new case of Alzheimer’s disease is developed every 67 seconds. Meanwhile, the number of Alzheimer’s patients is on the rise, with the numbers expected to double or even triple by the year 2030. This degenerative brain disease affects millions of people around the world…and has no known cure. Over time, it impacts your memory function, mood, and even your independence. With so many life-altering symptoms related to the disease, early detection is key. Unfortunately, obtaining an Alzheimer’s diagnosis can be difficult.

Dr. David Tal of the Age Matters Clinic in Toronto.

Dr. David Tal of the Age Matters Clinic in Toronto.

Despite the fact that Alzheimer’s affects the lives of men and women across the country, diagnosis can take months or even years. Why is this the case? Early symptoms may appear to be signs of other diseases or may be dismissed as issues related to aging. This can prolong proper diagnosis, which in turn causes patients and loved ones to feel frustrated and powerless. Are you wondering what you can do to speed things up? Then you’ll need to understand how Alzheimer’s disease is diagnosed – and what to be on the lookout for.

Early diagnosis is important. For starters, it allows families to look at treatment options for symptoms related to the disease, like depression. It also gives patients and their loved ones the opportunity to focus on a healthy diet and lifestyle. This has been found to slow down the progression of the disease. In addition, early diagnosis gives family members more time to find appropriate care plans for the patient as the disease progresses. However, the reality is that Alzheimer’s disease cannot be diagnosed completely accurately until after death. That is why a proper diagnosis can be drawn out. Doctors use a process of elimination that has an accuracy of about 90%.

It starts by finding out more about the patients’ medical history. This allows doctors to determine whether there are other medical issues at play and how to come up with the best treatment plan for their needs. Some of the questions your loved one will be asked include: Are you taking any medications? Do you have a family history of dementia or Alzheimer’s disease? Are you dealing with any current illnesses? What type of issues or symptoms have you been experiencing? and so on. The answers to these questions will help the medical professional get a better understanding of the situation.

From there, the doctor will give a mental state exam to test the patients ability to problem solve, their memory skills, and attention span. This can reveal whether or not there has been a decrease in memory function. Next is the physical exam. This will let the doctor know more about their overall health and physical condition. It can also signal whether the patient has another medical problems that has similar symptoms to Alzheimer’s disease. X-Rays, blood tests, and brain imaging will likely be done as well to rule out any other potential health problems. The results of the questions, exams, and tests will help to pin point a diagnosis.

So, what can you do to help during this process? Show your support, take note of any changes in memory, mood, or behaviour, and ensure your loved one gets the proper medical attention they need. It is important to act quickly. The sooner your loved one is diagnosed, the better. If you feel unsure or overwhelmed, seek the help or advice of a professional.

Have you noticed a friend or family member showing signs of Alzheimer’s disease? Then help them take that first step towards diagnosis. It may seem scary at first – but receiving a medical assessment will lead to a plan of action. Whatever the outcome, remember: your love and support can make all the difference.

About the author: Dr. David Tal has more than twenty years of clinical experience. He manages the Age Matters Clinic in Toronto, Canada. He strongly believes that medical treatment can improve the life of Alzheimer’s and memory loss patients.

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Sharing a loving memory on Father’s Day

A recent survey found that dads often get the short end of the stick when it comes to gift-giving on Father’s Day. It seems most of us spend more on our mothers than our fathers. Many people say mothers are easier to shop for, and seem to appreciate gifts more than fathers.

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But for those of us who have lost our fathers, or are losing them slowly due to dementia, it is too late to worry about something as trivial as gift-giving. The best we can do is share a loving memory of our fathers, to offer to the world a glimpse of what this special person meant in our lives.

Two loving memories come to my mind this Father’s Day. The first is the lengths my dad went to in confronting the family of the bully who pushed me down at a preschool Halloween party. Dad wasn’t going to let anyone hurt his little girl! The second was just a year or so before Dad began his battle with dementia. He had filled out a prayer card for me, relating my struggles with Celiac disease. I had no idea he was paying attention when I discussed my condition.

After all of those years, Dad was still looking out for his little girl.

What are your favorite memories of your father? How do you honor him on this day?

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Read This Book If You Have Older Parents

Wanted to share this. I can’t wait to read this book and hope it helps others as well as we make our way through this family caregiving journey.

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There is NO excuse for elder abuse

An important topic that needs to be discussed!

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As the population ages, the issue of elder abuse becomes more and more prevalent. Elder mistreatment (i.e. abuse and neglect) is defined as intentional actions that cause harm or create a serious risk of harm (whether or not harm is intended) to a vulnerable elder by a caregiver or other person who stands in a trust relationship to the elder. This includes failure by a caregiver to satisfy the elder’s basic needs or to protect the elder from harm.

Unfortunately, we simply do not know for certain how many people are suffering from elder abuse and neglect. It appears that female elders are abused at a higher rate than males and that the older one is, the more likely one is to be abused.

Signs of elder abuse may be missed by professionals working with older Americans because of lack of training on detecting abuse. The elderly may be reluctant…

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A moment of feeling lost

As I mentioned recently, I just finished the excellent novel, “Still Alice” which is told from the perspective of a woman with early-onset Alzheimer’s. One facet of the book that seemed very realistic and frightening to me is how the character gets lost on her travels through her neighborhood. I love to walk around my neighborhood (the character in the book loves to run or ride her bicycle). I have lived in my neighborhood since 1997, and like to think I know it like the back of my hand.

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But an experience last week gave me just the tiniest insight into how disconcerting feeling lost amidst the familiar can be.

I was going to a dentist appointment, and my dentist had moved his office to a condo building just off the park that is in the center of my neighborhood. I made a note of the new address, and then made an assumption of where I thought it was located. Ironically, I was actually reflecting on “Still Alice” as I was walking to my appointment!

So I reached the corner where I thought the office would be, and no condo building. Then I realized that I was probably a couple of blocks off. But in my mind, I could not picture where this condo building would be along the street that matched the address. I started walking hurriedly, not wanting to be late. A car honked, and a co-worker of mine shouted out my name and waved to me, distracting me further. I was about halfway down the street and thought for sure that there was no condo building at the end of the street. But there had to be! It was hard to see the house numbers so I couldn’t use that as my gauge. I finally broke out Google Maps on my phone but the sun was shining bright and it was hard to follow the arrow to see if I was walking in the right direction.

I was reaching a mild panic at this point, and also felt embarrassed. How could I be lost in my own neighborhood?

Suddenly, like magic, the condo building appeared. It is newish, and I don’t walk down this street very often, but as it turned out, I went out of my way to get to it because of my careless planning. My heart was pounding a bit as I stepped into the dentist’s office, with a few minutes to spare.

The experience gave me a better understanding of disorientation, a common symptom of Alzheimer’s. It also reminded me how often we put ourselves on auto-pilot as we go about running errands and performing daily tasks. We take so much for granted. Alzheimer’s shows us how much we have to lose when our brain function falters.

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To my mother, a wonderful caregiver

My mom and I don’t always see eye-to-eye, and sometimes she drives me crazy. But while these last several years have been difficult for our family, they have also highlighted my mom’s wonderful qualities.

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So on Mother’s Day, I want to honor my mom, who was such a tireless and loving caregiver for my dad. I took for granted all of the things she did for Dad. It was not until I became my mom’s caregiver that I appreciated all of the sacrifices she made.

This is a sketch of my mom done while she was in the Navy, in the early 1960’s. It was then burned/engraved into a wood canvas. It is really a unique work, and captures my mom’s cheerful spirit.

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Communication Strategies

Effective communication skills can be difficult for us to learn as dementia caregivers. We really have to rethink our approach. The tips offered here are an excellent reference to keep handy.

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As the disease progresses, the communication skills of a person with dementia will gradually decline. Eventually, he or she will have more difficulty expressing thoughts and emotions. Ultimately, the person will be unable to understand what is being communicated and lose the ability for verbal expression.

The challenges associated with communication can lead to frustration. It can be helpful for you to understand what changes may occur over time so you can prepare and make adjustments. Anticipating these changes and knowing how to respond can help everyone communicate more effectively.

Tips for successful communication:

  • Allow time for response so the person can think about what he or she wants to say.
  • Engage the person in one-on-one conversation in a quiet space with minimal distractions.
  • Be patient and supportive. Offering comfort and reassurance can encourage the person to explain his or her thoughts.
  • Maintain good eye contact. It shows you care…

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