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October 28, 2024 · 8:00 am

Which songs will be on your end-of-life playlist?

What songs would you like to listen to as you depart this world. Marie Curie conducted research on this intriguing topic and compiled a list of the most popular songs for those at the end of life, The Guardian reported. Familiar favorites like Frank Sinatra’s “My Way” and “Hey Jude” by the Beatles made the top 10 list, as did a couple of perhaps more surprising selections: “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun” by Cyndi Lauper and “The Best” by Tina Turner. Check out the complete top 10 list and learn more about the study on Marie Curie’s website and listen to the playlist on Spotify.

Music therapy can have a profound and positive impact at the end of life, as well as for those with conditions like Alzheimer’s disease. The Marie Curie study found that playing music had a calming effect for the vast majority of those in end of life care.

Music is a personal passion for many people, whether they play instruments or are devoted fans to particular artists and bands. There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to selecting favorite songs for an end of life playlist. Some may choose soothing music, others may want to rock out to their favorite songs that remind them of happy times in their life. I remember having a brief hospice consultation when my father was in the hospital at the end of his life. Sadly there was no room in the inpatient hospice unit for him, but I remember the counselor asking about Dad’s favorite music. That was easy to answer. Dad’s playlist would have included Bing Crosby, Frank Sinatra, and at least one rendition of “Danny Boy.”

When my mother was dying at home, I played her favorite music. Mom had fairly eclectic tastes, but she was most fond of classic country such as Willie Nelson, Dolly Parton, Kris Kristofferson, and Glen Campbell. But when my mother took her last breath, she departed on an upbeat tune by Trini Lopez, which matched Mom’s personality quite well.

I also have eclectic tastes in music so my playlist would include selections from Eva Cassidy, the McGarrigle Sisters, Gillian Welch, a mix of classic country and 1980s-1990s alternative rock, along with bluegrass and Celtic instrumentals.

What music would you include in your end of life playlist?

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Thinking of Mom on her birthday

Mom would have been 87 today. While Mom and I were opposites in many ways, I did gain an appreciation of music from her. She loved her Martin guitar and it survived several moves with her. She taught me to play a bit when I was a kid; it kept me occupied over those long, hot summers in California. After she died, the guitar was one of the mementos that I cherished the most, so it’s now in my home. I’ve attempted to play it again sporadically, and hope one day I can dedicate enough time to be able to play casually again.

I also inherited an appreciation of a wide range of music from my mother. She loved listening to everything from Mozart and Beethoven to Johnny Cash and Willie Nelson. She even tried to appreciate the music I loved growing up, and the music video craze of the 1980s. I think Cyndi Lauper was probably her favorite, because she was so fun and colorful.

Mom would be proud knowing I was still sharing our family caregiving story with others. You can listen to my appearance on the Caregiver SOS podcast on Spotify or your preferred podcast hosting service. I’ll write more about the appearance in my next post.

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Capturing the power of music in the midst of Alzheimer’s

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I read a beautiful, poignant story earlier this month about a man with Alzheimer’s who is losing the ability to play the songs he wrote for his wife. These were songs he knew by heart, so he never wrote them down. No one expects a disease like Alzheimer’s to claim what is most precious and sacred to you.

Steve Goodwin, 67, became frustrated when he was unable to play his compositions. That’s when in walked an angel named Naomi Laviolette, a family friend. She plays the piano and asked if Goodwin could help her reconstruct his compositions. She’s recording them note for note so that Goodwin’s musical legacy will be preserved forever.

Goodwin’s wife, Joni, was moved to tears when she heard Laviolette play her husband’s music that she feared was lost. The pair have been married 47 years. She told CBS, “”Losing the songs would be like losing him.”

Goodwin even managed to write a new song, with Laviolette’s help.

This man with Alzheimer's is on a mission to save his music, @ontheroadcbs https://t.co/GMqRr6GpJS

— CBS Evening News (@CBSEveningNews) August 5, 2017