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How color plays a role in dementia care

After learning about colors as a child, we may take their appearance for granted, unless you are an artist. But colors can take on different meanings for those with dementia, and understanding those changes can be helpful as a dementia caregiver.

I remember seeing the visual impact of dementia in person when visiting my parents. We were in a building with an elevator, and my father took a very large step across the threshold of the elevator, where a black mat was placed. As Linda Slaton Anderson points out in this article published in Today’s Caregiver, “some therapists recommend placing black mats in front of doors or stairs since Alzheimer’s patients perceive them to be holes and thus tend to avoid walking on them.” Clearly, my father experienced that “black hole” visual disruption.

While some changes in processing colors can be frightening for both those with dementia and their caregivers, colors can also be used in positive ways. For example, those with dementia with diminished appetite may benefit from using red dishes on a white tablecloth, due to the higher contrast attracting attention to the food on the plate.

“Colors are processed by our brains more quickly than words,” Anderson notes. As those with dementia lose their language abilities, colors may remain a way to convey feelings and encourage engagement.

Color choice can impact mood, which those with an interest in interior design understand well. This applies to those with dementia as well. Blues and greens can provide a calming, soothing effect, while orange and yellow are cheerful colors that can lift one’s mood.

For caregivers trying to decode or address negative behavior in their loved one with dementia, consider the role color may be playing.

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Snow day in Atlanta

We had the rare snow day in Atlanta on Friday. It snowed a bit more than expected intown, and upon waking one walked into a winter wonderland.

It’s always fun to see how pets react to snow, especially when they don’t see it very often. My dog Murphy was braver than expected. My girl kitty Serena, who on a sunny day loves to try to bolt out the door to explore the yard, approached the snow with extreme caution and immediately regretted her decision, haha. And Dorian, my boy cat, the daredevil of the bunch, flat out refused to even put a paw into the snow.

Growing up in southern California, I never saw snow until I moved away for college, but I remember my mother having fond memories of snow days on the farm in Tennessee where she grew up. While there were still farm chores to be done, school was out. The family would make snow cream from the freshly fallen snow. Of course nowadays, with all of the pollutants in the environment, this wouldn’t be safe to do, but back in the day, my mother had fond memories of this rare, special treat.

Of course, winter weather can bring challenges to those with health issues and their caregivers. Last year around this time I wrote about keeping your loved ones with dementia warm and comfortable during winter weather events. I notice that as I age, the cold tends to bother me more so I’m using some of the tips on the list as well, such as layering and paying attention to my hands, which can be a challenge to keep warm.

Hope you are staying warm and cozy this winter season.

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Marking the anniversary of my father’s death

Posing with the bears outside of the Ruidoso Public Library, 2004.

My father died 13 years ago today. Having spent time recently going through the final batch of my father’s possessions, I feel his spirit even closer this year.

I didn’t have down time while I was cleaning out my parents’ condo, so I got up extra early on the day I was leaving to visit the library. I took a photo with one of the bear statues. It was too early for the library to be open but I was glad I squeezed in the time to take in the sights and sounds of nature along the picturesque walking trail to the library, as my father did so many times.

Posing with the bears again, Nov. 2024.

It was my father’s favorite spot. He spent countless hours there, and even as his dementia progressed and his reading skills diminished, he still made his way to the library out of habit.

I don’t visit libraries myself anymore, having adopted the convenience of e-books, but as I mentioned in my last blog post, libraries will always hold a special place in my heart.

Even though it’s been well over a decade since my father’s passing, marking the somber anniversary still does have an impact on my holiday spirit. For those who have experienced loss during the holiday season, allow yourself the space and self-compassion to adjust expectations.

Reflection and remembrance can take many forms, and your preferences may change over time. Be authentic and don’t try to force emotions.

I know this can be easier said than done when it comes to demands from others, who may not appreciate the complexities and individuality of the grieving process. My wish for you this holiday season is that others will be supportive and understanding.

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Give the gift of books

When I was cleaning out my parents’ condo, I came across so many books! I’d donated many books to the local library over the years, so I couldn’t believe how many books were still left when I did the final cleanout. Most of the books belonged to my father, who had a deep interest in WWII history, as he lived through the bombing of his hometown of Belfast when he was a child.

Reading was my father’s passion. He was a voracious reader and always had a book or two on his nightstand or coffee table. He sparked my love of reading, and some of my happiest childhood memories are Saturday afternoons spent with Dad in the library. I still enjoy physical books, but I do most of my reading now via e-books. It’s just more convenient and I’m at a point in life where I want to downsize, beginning with my possessions.

With that being said, books can make wonderful gifts this time of year so I want to let you know about Smashwords 2024 End of Year Sale. I’m a participating author in this sales event so you can get e-book versions of The Reluctant Caregiver and CBD for Caregivers for half off from Dec. 12 through Jan. 1, 2025. Use the code SEW50 at checkout.

Digital books can make ideal gifts for those who live far away or for last-minute gift ideas. If you are gifting a book to a caregiver, you may wonder, do caregivers have time to read? It really depends upon the individual circumstance, but reading can be a source of respite, a way to whisk away to another world, even if one only has time to read a page or chapter at a time. A great resource for books that are curated by and for dementia caregivers can be found at AlzAuthors. Their collection includes everything from memoir to self-help to children’s books.

Speaking of children’s books, my tale about my senior rescue dog, Slow Dog, is also still available.

Murphy posing with his book.

Hope you get to enjoy the gift of a good book this holiday season.

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Dementia wandering can be life-threatening in winter

Parts of the US are already experiencing winter weather. It’s important to ensure that loved ones with dementia don’t wander when the weather turns frigid. Each winter, there are cases of those with dementia who fall victim to the elements after wandering from home or a care facility.

My father was a wanderer. His lifelong love of walking had kept him lean, but his desire to move became a liability as his dementia progressed. Dementia takes a physical toll as well, so as Dad became frailer, he was more prone to injuries from falls. While he still lived at home, my mother had to watch him like a hawk. One time, she attempted to take a brief bath, and Dad slipped away. Mom immediately called me, frantic. It was going to be dark soon, and turning colder. In my father’s case, there was a happy ending. Mom called the police who were responsive and tracked my father down not too far from my parents’ condo community. Crisis averted that time.

My father would wander a few more times while he still lived at home, including one infamous time when my mother was in the dentist’s chair. Once he moved to the memory care unit, he was behind a locked door secured by a code. He still wandered, up and down the halls, and outside in the garden area when weather permitted, but at least he was contained to the facility.

It’s such a helpless feeling when a loved one is lost. I’m grateful for first responders and others who helped locate my father when he wandered off.

There are things caregivers can do proactively to reduce the risk of wandering this winter.

  • Door locks: One of the easiest solutions is to configure your home’s door locks to one in which you lock with a key from the inside. Then keep the key on a chain around your neck or in another inaccessible place from your loved one with dementia. If you prefer a more high-tech solution, you could choose something like a fingerprint lock or one that requires a code. Consider a door chime or bell to signal when one exits the home.
  • Trackers: I bought one of the earliest renditions of GPS-powered tracking tags for my father, but the device was cumbersome to use at the time and didn’t have good reception in the mountain town where my parents lived. I’m happy to say that such devices have come a long way since then. If high-tech solutions aren’t an option, even a simple ID bracelet or necklace can be helpful. For long-distance caregivers, seek devices that allow you to monitor your loved one’s movements from your phone, which can offer some peace of mind.
  • Behavior modification: Track your loved one’s wandering episodes. Do they happen at a certain time of day? Sundowning is a common issue for those with dementia, and the longer period of darkness during the winter can exacerbate the issue. My father struggled with bedtime and sometimes would get up in the middle night, change into day clothes, and sit in his chair in the living room until morning. Consider changing up your schedule and finding enjoyable activities to do together during this time period. Talk to the doctor about medication or other therapies.

If your loved one does wander away, try not to panic. Conduct a quick search of the immediate area, and if there’s no sign of the individual, contact authorities. 911 should be able to direct you to any specific community programs for these situations, if they exist in your area, or like in my father’s case, patrol officers handled the situation. Keep a folder on your phone with a recent photo of your loved one, nearby places they may be prone to going to, a list of medical issues and medications, and the contact information for area hospitals.

Caregiver.com has additional useful tips for caregivers to keep their loved ones with dementia safe and warm this winter.

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Making guests with dementia feel comfortable at Thanksgiving dinner

Thanksgiving was one of my family’s favorite holidays. My father loved the food and my mother enjoyed preparing our small family’s meal. If you are hosting or attending a Thanksgiving dinner with a loved one with dementia, it’s important to consider such an occasion from the perspective of someone with cognitive challenges. By planning ahead, remaining flexible, and adjusting your expectations, you increase the chances of everyone having a good time.

Here are important aspects to consider:

Group setting: How many people will be attending the gathering? Is your loved one with dementia comfortable with large groups or do they become easily overwhelmed? What about children or pets? Some people with dementia light up and become more engaged in the presence of children and pets, others may find their energy overwhelming or irritating.

Sitting at a large table can make it difficult for those with dementia to keep up with multiple conversation streams. One solution could be to have multiple smaller table settings to encourage engagement and reduce distractions.

Dietary needs: Dementia can impact a person’s palate, so don’t be surprised or insulted if old favorites are not greeted with much enthusiasm. If dietary restrictions are a consideration, making a plate instead of self-serve may be the best option. Monitor alcohol intake, especially if your loved one takes medications that may interact with alcohol.

Those in the middle to latter stages of Alzheimer’s and other dementias may begin having problems managing cutlery. Consider cutting up food into bite-sized pieces for ease in eating.

One of the more sensitive and heartbreaking aspects of dementia is when someone who loved to cook loses the ability to safely navigate the kitchen and follow recipes. For those who still want to contribute to the Thanksgiving feast, find kitchen tasks that match their ability level. Remember that it’s about the family spending quality time together even more than the food.

Meal presentation: One thing in common with Thanksgiving dinner spreads is that the table is often loaded with multiple dishes. It can be difficult to know where to start even for someone without dementia! Consider using adaptive dinnerware designed for those with dementia.

If your family is hosting and your loved one is no longer able to cook safely, keep them involved by helping set the table.

Need for quiet time: Be prepared to give your loved one a space where they can decompress if necessary. If you are at someone else’s home, perhaps a guest bedroom or if the weather cooperates, a breath of fresh air on the porch could be ideal. Sometimes, a drive around the block may help re-set one’s mood, and worse case scenario, leaving a gathering early is always an option.

Remain flexible and accept that certain beloved family traditions may need to be revamped. After such a social event, make sure your loved one has plenty of time to rest and recover.

By taking these aspects of holiday meal planning into consideration, loved ones with dementia will continue to feel involved and appreciated. Even those who have diminished verbal skills can soak up the love in the room.

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A growing number of older women are living with dementia on their own

A recent article in The Washington Post discussed a growing and concerning trend: women who live alone and have dementia. Women tend to live longer than men and have a greater chance of developing dementia, so this trend is not surprising, but raising awareness may help communities better serve this aging in place population who have specialized needs.

As someone who is kinless and divorced, with dementia on both sides of my family tree, I think about this scenario often. For now, I’m focused on maintaining good overall health while I consider for my future living arrangements a planned community that intentionally accounts for the needs of their elder population. Things like providing rides to doctor’s appointments or for grocery shopping and offering lawncare and home repair services can help support an elder in the earlier stages of dementia who is living on their own. Making professional services such as financial and legal advisors is also beneficial. One of the most important tasks is one of the most simple: checking in on neighbors with dementia who are on their own to reduce isolation and as a way to ensure someone who needs a higher level of care receives it.

For long-distance caregivers, one challenge is encouraging your elder loved ones to take advantage of resources in their community. After my father died, my mother was very lonely, yet she shunned the social groups at the community senior center. I felt helpless in trying to aid in this situation. My mother didn’t have dementia, which can create an additional layer of resistance.

Here are resources for those with dementia who live alone:

The Alzheimer’s Association: If you live alone

National Institute on Aging: Tips for Living Alone With Early-Stage Dementia

Alzheimer’s Society: Living alone as a person with dementia

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Can a light and sound show for the brain treat cognitive decline?

An article published by Nature recently caught my eye. Instead of medication, a non-invasive treatment called “gamma frequency stimulation” has shown some promise in curbing further cognitive decline in those in the early stages of Alzheimer’s disease, according to early clinical trial study results.

The method may sound dubious at first but the science behind it is interesting. Researchers have discovered that in addition to amyloid and tau protein accumulation, gamma frequency oscillations in the brain occur at a reduced rate in those with Alzheimer’s. Could gamma stimulation boost frequency, reduce amyloid and tau amounts and preserve or improve cognitive functioning?

Mouse models were promising and so are the initial findings of a randomized controlled trial, which found that the “daily use of 40Hz light and sound devices in patients with probable mild AD revealed preserved brain volume, improved memory, and stabilized sleep circadian rhythms.” A longer 30-month extension of this trial found that “patients showed surprising cognitive stability” even during the COVID-19 pandemic. Other trials both at the academic and industry level have reported similar results.

What does the patient have to do to receive such treatment? One product requires a person to wear a special headset and glasses for an hour each day which produces rhythmic clicking and flashing lights that repeat 40 times a second. Another product comes in the form of a specialized light box. Researchers are attempting to make the light flicker and clicking sounds required for the gamma stimulation treatment more tolerable to users by incorporating music into some devices.

Gamma stimulation is not without health risks, especially for those prone to seizures. More research is needed and those interested should be wary of vendors selling expensive machines to consumers that have not been approved for treatment. I’ll be following developments in this trial as I’m all for effective at-home treatments that don’t require pricey medication that can come with a host of serious side effects.

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Remembering a former colleague, community activist

Earlier this month, a former colleague of mine, Marcia Killingsworth, died from lung disease. Our paths crossed professionally when we worked for the same newspaper and then we became longtime Facebook friends, where we shared a loving devotion to our cats.

I knew that Marcia had been actively involved in her community of Edison, Georgia, where she moved back to after retiring. An article written after her death highlighted just what a difference her contributions made to the town. Marcia was dogged in her dedication to holding the town’s leaders financially accountable, faithfully attending monthly city council meetings, taking notes and asking critical questions. She followed up on issues until she received answers, and documented everything on social media. This is not glamourous work, but it is necessary. Her actions inspired others to join her. One of those residents said of Marcia: “She was the one who brought Edison to light.”

I love that and hope it will offer inspiration for those of us working to raise awareness of Alzheimer’s and other dementias. Sometimes our work can seem futile and discouraging, but individually and collectively, we are making a difference. Our actions may not make headlines or go viral, but they will be remembered by others.

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