Monthly Archives: October 2013

October 30, 2013 · 3:53 pm

Lessons learned from an Alzheimer’s caregiver

This insightful essay was posted on Maria Shriver’s website earlier this month. It is written by a neurologist who became a caregiver for his father when he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. The piece outlines 10 lessons that the author learned as he helped guide his father on this journey that no one wishes to take. Most of the points are well-known to those who are Alzheimer’s caregivers, but the simplest and most obvious advice can easily get buried as you struggle to deal with the emotional impact of the disease. We all know that we need to stay positive, live in the moment, keep our sense of humor and stop sweating the small stuff. While all of that is easier said than done, the author does a good job of giving examples of how this sage advice helped his dad live the best quality of life possible, despite the grim diagnosis.

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The last lesson is perhaps the most important of all but one many of us may struggle with the most: put away resentment and regret.

What lessons have you learned from being an Alzheimer’s caregiver that you think are the most important to share with others?

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October 23, 2013 · 7:31 pm

“Tip of tongue” moments may be harmless

Good news for my mom and other seniors who have their fair share of “it’s on the tip of my tongue” moments. Apparently, the frustrating condition does not appear to be a symptom of dementia, according to the results of a recent study. The study involved over 700 subjects and while older people struggled more with these “tip of tongue” moments, the study concluded that there was no link between these temporary memory glitches and dementia.

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We all have those moments where we try our darndest to think of something but it remains just out our reach of memory. It’s frustrating, but as we get older, those moments sometimes are more frequent. My mom is an interesting case because she has always had this way of going off on several different tangents and forgetting what the original point was. It’s frustrating for her, and for me. 🙂

But Mom worries every time she struggles to remember something that she is exhibiting the early signs of dementia. After losing Dad and a sister to Alzheimer’s, it’s an understandable fear. As I march towards 40, early-onset Alzheimer’s is on my mind.

It’s a relief to know that these slips of memory are not something that we should worry about too much. We have enough to worry about as it is!

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October 19, 2013 · 7:02 pm

Bringing cheer to loved ones who are ill

And now for a shameless plug. I submitted a story about taking care of my mom when she was in the hospital to an online callout from an author. My story was accepted and the book has been released. The book’s title is “101 Awesome Things to Do for Someone Who’s Sick” by Elaine Wilkes, PhD. It’s a collection of sweet, fun or thoughtful things you can do for someone who is ill. The Kindle edition of the book is only 99 cents through 10.22.13.

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My entry is titled “Find Something to Entertain Them” and it’s on page 217-218. It’s about the joy that a talking parrot toy brought my mom while she was recovering from cancer surgery last year. As I’ve written before, Polly the Parrot also brightened up my Dad’s spirit while he battled Alzheimer’s.

I don’t make any profit from the book but I just want to pass the info along because I think it might be of interest to those who follow this blog. It would also make an ideal gift for a caregiver. I haven’t had the chance to read through all of the ideas yet, but so far I have been amazed by people’s kind-hearted gestures.

I would love to hear the kind gestures you have performed for a loved one who is ill!

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October 12, 2013 · 11:40 am

ICU stays can trigger dementia

The Intensive Care Unit offers the best of care for critically ill patients. It is necessary in certain cases and the quality of care and technology available in the ICU has saved countless numbers of lives. But a recent study discovered that extended stays in the ICU can trigger dementia symptoms.

A new study suggests that staying in the ICU too long can trigger dementia symptoms.

Shorter ICU stays may help reduce the risk of dementia symptoms.

The Vanderbilt University study followed 800 patients after their ICU stay for a year. A whopping 75 percent exhibited signs of dementia during the study period. 1 in 3 exhibited symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease. The age of patients did not impact the display of symptoms. One example given in the article was a 46-year-old woman who spent three weeks in the ICU was still dealing with cognitive impairment issues 18 months later.

The study concluded that both serious illness and anesthesia drugs used during surgery could be dementia triggers.

My mother, who does not have dementia, had two surgeries last year that landed her in ICU. Her first surgery was of emergency nature and landed her for several days in the ICU. The second surgery was scheduled and Mom spent only the minimum amount of time in the ICU that is required post-surgery. Mom also had multiple complications (blood clots) with the first surgery. Her mental state was impaired for months after the first surgery but she was alert and talking just about an hour after the second surgery was completed. Her mental recovery from the second surgery was very quick.

When my dad had to have surgery to remove a kidney stone, he was in the middle stages of Alzheimer’s. His recovery was very slow and I do believe his cognitive functioning declined more rapidly than it had been before the surgery.

We can’t always avoid stays in the ICU, but advocates suggest asking for lighter sedation options when possible and trying to get patients engaged in mentally stimulating activities while they are recovering.

What has been you or your family member’s experience been like in the ICU?

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October 7, 2013 · 11:18 am

Michael’s Story – Living With Dementia

Michael’s story is a brutally honest and heartbreaking personal story of living with dementia.

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Check out Michael’s beautifully written story of what life is really like, living with dementia.  Katie Couric featured his article on her program yesterday where she covered the disease. 

Kudos Michael for connecting with Katie! 

Keep up the great work.

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October 1, 2013 · 1:01 pm

Can stress cause dementia?

If this latest dementia study from Sweden is true, I’m in big trouble.

Maybe we all need to have a good scream or shout.

Maybe we all need to have a good scream or shout.

The study kept track of 800 women from their late 30’s through their senior years. Stressful events that occurred to the subjects were recorded over those years. Between 1968 and 2006, almost 20 percent of the women developed dementia. An association between the number of stressors reported by the subjects and an increased risk of dementia (15 percent) and Alzheimer’s (21 percent) was reported. While further studies will need to be conducted to establish a link, it is believed the damage that stress can inflict upon the body, including inflammation of the brain, may be the culprit.

The Huffington Post article also points out that stress hormones can remain elevated long after a traumatic event.

Considering my last couple of years, this is an alarming finding. Dare I say it is … stressing me out? 🙂

But on a serious note, those of us who are family caregivers cannot deny the physical and mental consequences of stress. I have no easy answers on how to relieve stress. I’ve tried many of the recommended methods and failed. If you have a stress-relieving activity that you enjoy, try to work that into your normal routine. Letting off steam and returning to a calm state should be considered as necessary as breathing and any other vital body function.

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