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November 6, 2023 · 8:00 am

Marking National Family Caregivers Month and National Alzheimer’s Month

November is both National Family Caregivers Month and National Alzheimer’s Month. The National Family Caregivers Month theme for 2023 per Caregiver Action Network is is #CaregiversConnect. Visit the CAN website for resources on how you can connect with other caregivers and caregiver support services.

In honor of National Alzheimer’s Month, I’d like to share a giveaway from AlzAuthors. During the month of November, while supplies last, you can receive a free audiobook, “Alzheimer’s and Dementia Caregiving Stories: 58 authors share their inspiring personal experiences” to those in the US and UK and a free copy of the e-book version, which is available to readers around the world. Visit the AlzAuthors website for more details.

I’d like to share this message from AlzAuthors in support of all caregivers. I know I struggled as a family caregiver by constantly being in doing mode. Respite can be difficult to secure and self-care is often relegated to a low priority, but even moments of pause can make a difference.

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October 30, 2023 · 8:00 am

‘Depression tiredness’ and caregivers

As we prepare to enter another holiday season, it’s important to note if you are exhibiting signs of depression and fatigue. This social post from the Academy of Grief calls it “depression tiredness.”

I experienced much of this list while caring for my parents. I thought the “pretending to be okay” entry and being tired from faking a smile all day was particularly notable for caregivers. Instinctively people may project an outward image of strength, but inside, we may be feeling something quite different.

It’s also important to note the small things one can do when they experience these emotions. Of course, seeking professional care is vital, but “small glimmers” can help one get through a difficult day. I’ve actually used all of these at one time another to ground myself or lift my spirits.

What would be your small glimmers?

Photo by Kristina Tripkovic on Unsplash

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October 23, 2023 · 8:00 am

Travel tips for caregivers

From my recent visit to Amsterdam.

I just got back from my first trip overseas since before the pandemic. Here are some observations I made that may be helpful for caregivers.

  • Verify that you and your loved ones have the required travel documents well before your international trip. Check the expiration date of your passport. If it is going to expire within 3-6 months of your trip dates, check to see if you’ll need to renew before your trip. Beginning in spring 2025, an additional authorization document will be required for US citizens traveling to Europe.
  • Mode of travel: If you are traveling overseas, you’ll probably be flying or taking a cruise. Trains are an option when traveling across Europe. There are pros and cons to each. It really depends upon the needs of those you care for and which mode of travel would be the most accommodating.
  • Medications and medical supplies: Make sure to clearly label medications to prevent issues during the security screening and if you have electronic medical supplies that require power, make sure to bring a country-specific outlet adaptor.
  • Accommodations: Make sure the accommodations you choose during your trip, whether a traditional hotel or an Airbnb, will be accessible for you and your loved ones.
  • Special diets: You can request special diet meals on flights. This can typically be done online, but check with your airline for more details. Bringing some favorite snacks can help put anxious loved ones more at ease. For those with a history of severe allergic reactions, bring an Epipen.
  • Public vs private transportation: Once you’ve arrived at your destination, if you plan on traveling in the region you’ll need to decide if public transportation is feasible or if would be more comfortable to hire a private care, if your budget allows. I dealt with significant rail issues during my recent trip which I was somewhat prepared for but do research how reliable public transit is in the area you will be visiting. Are you and your loved ones physically mobile? Keep in mind that walking is much more utilized as a form of personal transportation than in much of the US.
  • Be prepared for the unexpected: Travel delays, reservation issues, illness, etc. Try to include some flexibility in your travel schedule to allow for common travel issues.
  • If you or your loved one have a medical issue that you may need to seek care for while traveling, research care options near your destination. If you are visiting a country in which you can’t speak the language, do learn the phrases that could be of use to you in those situations.

Seeking more travel tips? Check out this guide from AARP and this Caregiver.com article that offers dementia caregivers specific trips on traveling safely with your loved ones.

Scenes from Amsterdam

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August 28, 2023 · 8:00 am

GUIDE Model seeks to offer better support for dementia caregivers

Caregivers of loved ones with dementia face unique challenges. A new model from the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services, GUIDE, seeks to change that.

GUIDE stands for Guiding an Improved Dementia Experience, and the program will launch on July 1, 2024 and run for eight years in its initial demonstration phase. The model has worthy goals:

  • First, by focusing on the person with dementia, and better addressing their care needs and transitions between levels of care.
  • Support dementia caregivers by providing them with training, social services, and respite care.
  • Focus on providing sufficient support for those dementia to safely live at home for as long as appropriate and reduce the need for nursing home care.

I think most dementia caregivers will welcome such support, even if it is long overdue. It will be interesting to see how this program is implemented and how it evolves during its testing period. For more information, review the GUIDE fact sheet.

Infographic image by cms.gov.

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August 14, 2023 · 8:00 am

New research finds walking just 4K steps daily offers health benefits

For caregivers who may wonder if they or the loved ones they care for get enough exercise, a new study offers recommendations that are more achievable than traditional guidelines.

According to a study published recently in the European Journal of Preventive Cardiology, walking just 4,000 steps per day is associated with a lower risk of death. A 2017 study cited by NBC found that the average person in the U.S. walks 4,774 steps per day.

I’ve been using a smart ring that tracks a variety of health-related metrics including steps. You might be surprised how many steps you log by doing daily household tasks. Cleaning, gardening, caregiving: exercise comes in many forms and offers health benefits.

For those able to move a bit more, the payoff was even better, with every 1,000 extra steps per day associated with a 15 percent reduction in a person’s overall risk of death, according to the new study. Walking has also been associated with a reduction in the risk of dementia.

But what about the 10,000 steps per day rule? That was actually based upon a Japanese marketing campaign for a pedometer, according to NBC. The number caught on and became standard, but according to a health expert interviewed by NBC, it’s a misconception and there’s a wide range of recommended daily steps depending upon age and physical ability.

I inherited my father’s love of walking. While walking didn’t prevent my father from getting dementia, it kept him lean and in decent physical health despite being diagnosed with COPD due to smoking. He would do laps at the memory care center and maintained his mobility up until the last couple of months of his life.

Photo by RDNE Stock project.

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August 7, 2023 · 8:00 am

Sharing the harsh realities of caregiving

While my caregiving journey with my parents was difficult, I try to share a variety of experiences here on The Memories Project, to reflect the diversity of caregiver stories. No two caregiving experiences are ever alike, but an essay I read this past week hit close to home for me on so many levels.

In this HuffPost essay by Kim Richards, she recounts the difficult experience of caring for her mother with cancer. I found so many similarities between Richards’ experience and my own caregiving experience that I recounted in my personal essay collection, The Reluctant Caregiver. Our mothers died within a year of each other, both lived in New Mexico, and both were in denial about their terminal condition. Richards had to give up her small business to move out-of-state to care for her mother; I had to quit a new job and was left with no health insurance.

I know these accounts are difficult for many to read and can be triggering for those of us who had a difficult caregiving journey. But I do think it’s important to share both the good and the bad, the inspirational and the challenging, so that hopefully people can be more emotionally prepared when it’s time for them to be a caregiver.

I’m grateful to all who share their caregiver stories as it helps me gain a better understanding of the diversity of the caregiving experience.

Photo by Isaac Quesada on Unsplash.

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July 17, 2023 · 8:00 am

Slow Dog a Purple Dragonfly award winner

I’m pleased to announce that my children’s book, Slow Dog, received Honorable Mention awards in two categories of the Purple Dragonfly Book Awards. This contest is focused solely on children’s books, so it’s extra special to me that Slow Dog was selected among the winning titles.

Sometimes nudging yourself out of your comfort zone can lead to good things. If you are on the fence about pursuing a creative endeavor of your own and doubting your abilities, I hope you can take some inspiration from this post. Whether you are sharing your caregiving journey or something completely unrelated, you won’t know what your capable of until you try.

I also can’t help but think about Dad’s unfinished novel. I know he would be proud of my modest success as a writer, because it was one of his unrealized dreams.

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June 5, 2023 · 8:00 am

Rosalynn Carter, tireless caregiver advocate, diagnosed with dementia

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Last week, The Carter Center announced that Rosalynn Carter has been diagnosed with dementia. This follows the news that former President Jimmy Carter has entered hospice.

Rosalynn Carter has long been an advocate for caregivers, founding the Rosalynn Carter Institute for Caregivers. Her quote about caregivers is well-known and so true: “There are only four kinds of people in the world––those who have been caregivers, those who are currently caregivers, those who will be caregivers, and those who will need caregivers.”

Carter, age 95, has served in all these roles and will now receive care herself. If you’d like to leave the Carter family a message of support, you can do so at the link in the tweet below.

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May 21, 2023 · 9:00 am

Marking 8 years since my mother’s death

With each passing year, it becomes more difficult to believe so much times has passed since my mother’s death in 2015. Death has a way of warping time, so one can feel the distance of those elapsed years but also be surprised at the sharp pangs of grief that can arise at random moments.

I made an active choice to stay in the caregiver community after the death of my parents and have no regrets about that, but it does keep the illness and end-of-life memories fresher than perhaps they would be otherwise. What is most disappointing is seeing so many family caregivers dealing with the same bureaucratic roadblocks and healthcare challenges that I experienced.

I’m grateful to be able to share my caregiving story and read the moving accounts of other caregivers.

An unusual thing happened this morning after I published this blog post. As I came down the stairs, arms full of laundry, I turned to a portrait of my mother that hangs on the wall at the top of the staircase. I said, “Hi Mom,” and continued on my way. About an hour later I was in the kitchen when I heard a crash and then something tumbling down the stairs. When I went to see what had fallen, it was the portrait of Mom I had just acknowledged an hour before. Mom was never a subtle communicator. It would be just like her to make a dramatic statement. For now, Mom’s portrait has a new spot in the living room.

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May 1, 2023 · 8:00 am

Hope to see you at the Atlanta Writers Conference

I will be participating in the Book Fair being hosted at the Atlanta Writers Conference this weekend. The Book Fair is being held Friday, May 5 from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m. I will be there most of the day. My latest title, my award-winning children’s book, Slow Dog, will be featured, but I’ll also have a few copies of my award-winning personal essay collection, The Reluctant Caregiver, and a few copies of Chicken Soup for the Soul: Living with Alzheimer’s and Other Dementias, which includes an essay I wrote about my father. All books will be priced at a special book fair discount.

The event will be held at the Westin Atlanta Airport Hotel. Conference details can be found on the Atlanta Writers Club website.

Shortly after my mother’s death, I learned that I had been selected as the recipient for the 2015 Rick Bragg Prize for Nonfiction, in the annual contest hosted by the Atlanta Writers Club. That honor gave me the confidence I needed to keep writing about my caregiving experience and eventually, publish a collection of my personal essays. So the Atlanta Writers Club will always hold a special place in my heart.

If you will be in attendance, please swing by the Book Fair room to say hello!

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