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July 27, 2024 · 1:08 pm

Highs and lows and embracing resilience

My 50th birthday was memorable in the best and worst of ways. The day before I turned 50, I traveled to Las Vegas and did the SkyJump at The Strat. It’s an 855-foot plunge from a platform on the 108th floor. Jumpers are attached to a cable and guide wire system for a controlled descent. It’s described as a vertical zip line.

It’s important to note that I’m terrified of heights. I can’t climb a ladder more than a few rungs without my knees shaking. It’s for this reason that I wanted to challenge myself and face one of my biggest fears. Letting go and stepping into the sky is a sensation like no other.

You can watch the video of my SkyJump below. Yes, I screamed all the way down, a mixture of fear and exhilaration.

It’s a good thing that I was still running on the high from the SkyJump because when trying to return home, I ran into the flight software issue that plagued airlines over the past week. I ended up spending early Sunday morning sleeping on the floor of the Las Vegas airport, only to have my flight canceled Sunday afternoon. There was a lot of sitting and waiting, which reminded me of all the times I spent with Mom in doctor’s offices and hospital waiting rooms. It’s a mixture of anxiety, dread, and boredom but my past caregiver experience has built up a reservoir of resilience for such situations. My main concern was not for myself but for my pets, and fortunately I was able to find a pet sitter to fill in at the last minute for my extended absence. I finally made it home Tuesday morning.

It’s not the way I would have preferred to end my birthday trip, but as one gets older and experiences the highs and lows of life, one learns how to better adapt to challenging circumstances.

For caregiver tips, check out my Caregiver Product Recommendations page, with a list of products that I used while caring for my parents.

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July 18, 2024 · 8:00 am

Reflections on turning 50

I’m turning 50 this week. Age may just be a number, but 50 feels like a significant milestone.

While I’m very grateful for my good health, I’m eager to move beyond the worst decade of my life. Within a year of turning 40, my mother died. A few years later, my nearly 20-year relationship ended in divorce. A year later, the coronavirus pandemic shut down the world and left us fearing for our lives and sanity. Just before Thanksgiving 2022, I was laid off from my job. I said a heartbreaking farewell to several beloved pets over the last decade of my life. My 40s was witness to a political firestorm in the U.S. that to my horror, gets worse with each passing day with no resolution in sight.

As I was reminiscing, I came across a blog post that I wrote when I turned 40, and what I hoped to accomplish during this decade of my life. I was prepared for cringeworthy commentary, but in fact, I accomplished all three of the items on my 40s list! I wrote and published a book (a total of 3 in fact!), I went to Ireland and N. Ireland, and I’ve grown my Alzheimer’s awareness advocacy efforts.

It reminded me of the worthy accomplishments that I achieved during my 40s, even if those things are often overshadowed by the barrage of difficult times. Reflecting on the good and the bad, I see a pattern emerge: good often follows the bad. For example, I was able to replace a job that was draining my energy with one that has allowed me to grow and gain new skills. I’ve been able to welcome new rescue pets into my life. Caring for my parents taught me many things about the healthcare system and the resilience of caregivers.

I’m not making a to-do list for my 50s. Instead I’m focusing on challenging myself to face my fears and be open to new experiences. I hope good will follow the bad for me this decade.

For caregiver tips, check out my Caregiver Product Recommendations page, with a list of products that I used while caring for my parents.

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ICYMI: I’m participating in the Smashwords Summer/Winter sale. Get the e-book version of my award-wining collection of personal essays, The Reluctant Caregiver, for half-off (just 99 cents!) during the entire month of July. Enter the code SSW50 at checkout.

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July 9, 2024 · 9:00 am

Caregiver SOS podcast: Preparing for the Financial Impact of Caregiving

Recently I had the pleasure of being a guest on the Caregiver SOS podcast. We discussed the financial impact of caregiving, and I shared my own insights from caring for my parents.

The “p” word really is the key word here. We discussed how to prepare financially before a family healthcare crisis strikes. This is a topic that I feel is vital to discuss as a family and I’m grateful for the opportunity to share my story.

You can find Caregiver SOS on your favorite digital audio platform, or via the WellMed Charitable Foundation website.

Listen to Preparing for the Financial Impact of Caregiving with Joy Johnston on Caregvier SOS

Preparing for the Financial Impact of Caregiving with Joy Johnston

For more caregiver tips, check out my Caregiver Product Recommendations page, with a list of products that I used while caring for my parents.

As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

ICYMI: I’m participating in the Smashwords Summer/Winter sale. Get the e-book version of my award-wining collection of personal essays, The Reluctant Caregiver, for half-off (just 99 cents!) during the entire month of July. Enter the code SSW50 at checkout.

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July 1, 2024 · 10:00 am

Summer reading recommendations for caregivers

It has been sweltering in Atlanta for the past month, and summer just began. When it’s too hot to be outside for long, I’m going to turn to one of my favorite pastimes that often gets pushed to the side: reading. I read all day as part of my job, but reading for pleasure is something that I wish I did more. My Kindle is full of books I haven’t started yet, and I have plenty more on my wish list. Reading is something that makes me feel close to my dad, and I feel I inherited my love of books from him.

I could write a book about the many amazing books available for dementia caregivers, but here are my top recommendations:

I’m honored to have “At the Crossroads,” a poem about my father, included in Poetry for the Dementia Journey: An AlzAuthors poetry Anthology. This new collection was published in June and is available on Amazon. Check out AlzAuthors for a large and impressive library of books that inform and support dementia caregivers.

I’m participating in the Smashwords Summer/Winter sale. Get the e-book version of my award-wining collection of personal essays, The Reluctant Caregiver, for half-off (just 99 cents!) during the entire month of July. Enter the code SSW50 at checkout.

If you’d like to honor the memory of dementia awareness advocate Wendy Mitchell, who died earlier this year, consider one of her books. One Last Thing is aptly titled as her final work. Somebody I Used to Know is her best known and highly acclaimed book.

Finally, another shameless plug: Chicken Soup for the Soul: Living with Alzheimer’s and Other Dementias is a wonderful collection that captures the highs and lows of the dementia caregiving journey. I’m honored to have a story about my father, “French Toast,” included in this edition.

What books are on your summer reading list?

For more suggestions beyond books, check out my Caregiver Product Recommendations page, with a list of products that I used while caring for my parents.

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June 24, 2024 · 8:00 am

Summer is here: Caregiver tips to keep loved ones safe

Summer officially began this week, but here in Atlanta, the heat arrived a month ago. Summer here is brutal and unrelenting and requires one to plan outdoor activities carefully. Humidity brings another level of misery and danger to summer heat waves. Beyond the standard temperature and heat index readings, it’s important to take into consideration heat and humidity with a more accurate measurement such as the wet bulb temperature; check out the readings for major cities.

Whether it’s the broiling triple digit temperatures out west or the oppressive humidity of the south, summer creates multiple challenges for caregivers. Keeping elder loved ones safe both indoors and out during the summer months requires smart planning.

Before a heat wave, check on your elder loved ones and make sure their homes have adequate cooling options. Keep in mind that elders on a tight budget may be reluctant to turn on the air conditioner, but that ill-advised decision could cost them their lives. Energy-efficient air conditioners are now available. Smart thermostats can help you monitor the temperature remotely and adjust if necessary.

Battery-powered handheld fans can offer a mobile form of relief both indoors and outdoors. I find that even with air conditioning, a tabletop fan helps keep the air moving in upper floor bedrooms, where it can get stuffy quickly. In milder climates, such as where my parents lived, oscillating fans may be sufficient to keep rooms comfortable.

Outdoor safety during the summer is multifaceted. Elders are more susceptible to heat, but spending time outdoors for short periods can offer important health benefits. Timing is key: aim for outdoor time in the early morning or in the evening after the sun goes down. For those who garden, wearing protective clothing and a hat is important, as is staying hydrated and taking breaks. These neck fans can help one cool down quickly when doing outdoor activities.

During summer heat waves, staying hydrated is essential. I witnessed my mother suffer the consequences of dehydration and the symptoms resembled dementia. From my experience, it can be difficult to encourage older people and those with dementia to drink enough fluids. These Stanley water bottles come with convenient handles and some models include built-in straws for ease in sipping. For outdoor adventures during the summer, carry hydration drink mix pouches such as Liquid I.V. which offer a quick electrolyte boost.

Mosquitoes aren’t just annoying, but can carry West Nile Virus, which can be deadly in older people. Consider a mosquito repellent device in addition to citronella candles, mosquito-repellent plants and clothing to keep loved ones safe while enjoying their home’s outdoor spaces.

I hope these suggestions help you plan for safe and enjoyable time outdoors this summer with your elder loved ones.

For more, check out my Caregiver Product Recommendations page, with a list of products that I used while caring for my parents.

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June 10, 2024 · 8:00 am

How caring for loved ones can leave one without a home

Imagine finding yourself homeless after sacrificing to care for a loved one. According to a recent NPR report, the tragic scenario is not that uncommon.

A person may need to move in with the care recipient if they are the primary caregiver and may not be able to maintain a job if needed for caregiver duties around the clock. In certain states, a family caregiver may receive a small family caregiver subsidy. This doesn’t replace a full-time income, but between a care recipient’s funds (such as disability or social security) and the caregiver subsidy, a person may be able to make ends meet. But once the care recipient dies, those benefits disappear, leaving the caregiver in a precarious financial situation.

If the care recipient rented their home, then a caregiver may find themselves having to move out quickly. Even if the care recipient owned their home, unless specific arrangements were outlined in a will or other legally binding document, the caregiver will have to negotiate with family members regarding living arrangements.

What may get overlooked is a caregiver’s own health issues and how long it can take time to restart one’s life, especially in the midst of active grieving. Those who were already living paycheck to paycheck may struggle to secure full-time employment upon re-entering the job market and the housing market in major cities is skyrocketing in price and running low on inventory. Any social services benefits that a caregiver seeks may take months to become active. This can lead to outcomes that otherwise they would never have imagined, such as homelessness.

A family medical crisis often happen with little to no notice. I encourage everyone to think about what they would do in such a situation, and make a plan on how to address financial and housing issues.

For caregiver resources, check out my dementia caregiver product recommendations. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

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June 2, 2024 · 9:00 am

Poetry for the Dementia Journey: An AlzAuthors Anthology available now

I’m excited to share that Poetry for the Dementia Journey, an AlzAuthors Anthology, is now available.

A poem I wrote about my father, is included in the collection. “At the Crossroads” is about the week I spent with my father in a hospital in Albuquerque in the last month of his life. He was in a medically induced coma so I spent many long hours looking out the window of his room.

I’ve found that beyond personal essays, writing poems about my caregiving experiences has been healing for me. Writing poems encourages me to distill memories using concise language and experiment with perspective and voice.

I had a chance to review an early copy of the book and was so moved by the poems people wrote about the dementia experience, from a myriad of perspectives.

To celebrate the launch of the collection, AlzAuthors is hosting a reading on Monday, June 3 at 4 p.m. ET. I’ll be participating, so I hope to see you there. If you are not able to attend live, the session will be recorded. You can access the Zoom link here..

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May 20, 2024 · 8:00 am

Uber Caregiver offers tech solutions for common tasks

There have been a lot of big announcements from technology companies recently, but one in particular caught my eye this past week: Uber announcing an initiative called Uber Caregiver. What does a ride hail service have to offer caregivers?

Uber has been expanding into other services for awhile. Uber Eats has become a popular restaurant delivery service. That service has expanded to offer groceries as well. Uber Health seeks to bring together these services to serve a specific population that could benefit greatly from them: caregivers and care recipients.

Uber Caregiver will allow a designated caregiver to request rides and order groceries for the care recipient. The caregiver will be able to monitor progress of rides and shopping orders on their own device. This would be beneficial for remote caregivers or those who cannot check in on their loved ones daily. Care recipients could maintain their independence with a reliable service that would transport them safely to doctor’s appointments.

One thing that isn’t clear is if Uber Caregiver drivers will receive any specialized training. That would seem to be critical, whether it’s how to help someone who’s mobility impaired in and out of a car or accommodating clients with cognitive decline. The Uber Caregiver service supports a 3-way chat system so a caregiver can stay in touch throughout the ride and receive a notification when their loved one arrives safely.

Those in rural areas will likely be out of luck, as Uber tends to focus on major cities and suburbs for its service areas. That’s unfortunate, as it’s those in rural areas without other transportation options that would benefit the most from the service. My parents were lucky to have access to a rural shuttle service run by the county, but the service was always being threatened by budget cuts.

Uber claims some healthcare plans will provide benefits towards the service, though it doesn’t provide a list of participating vendors. According to a Today report, those with Medicare Advantage, Medicaid, and eligible employer health insurance plans may find that Uber Caregiver services are covered, though individuals should consult their specific plan providers to confirm.

Uber Caregiver will begin to roll out this summer, with shopping access coming at a later date.

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For more caregiver resources, check out my dementia caregiver product recommendations. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

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May 12, 2024 · 8:15 am

Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day to mothers of all kinds. I will be holding space for all of us whose mothers are no longer here.

On a related note, congratulations to Katie Engelhart, contributing writer for The New York Times Magazine, who won a Pulitzer Prize for Feature Writing for The Mother Who Changed: A Story of Dementia. With compassion and clarity, she shared this family’s complex and fraught journey with dementia. The piece raises important ethical and moral issues that should be discussed.

In case you missed it, I’m sharing again a poem about my mother that was published by The Prose Poem earlier this year. “Her Lists” is my way of coming to terms with some of my mother’s more eccentric qualities. Below is an example of one of her lists for reference.

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April 29, 2024 · 8:00 am

Caregiver preparation tips for severe weather

Managing caregiving tasks can be difficult even on a normal day, let alone during a severe weather event.

This is my annual reminder to make sure you and your loved ones are prepared for severe weather events. Growing up in California, I learned about earthquake safety both at school and home. When my parents retired to Ruidoso, New Mexico, they learned about the threat of wildfires. In Georgia, I deal with flooding and power outages due to thunderstorms.

Being prepared and having a plan is critical. The American Red Cross offers good tips on preparing for severe weather events. The Alzheimer’s Association offers an emergency preparation resource for those caring for loved ones with dementia.

  • Keep a printout of important information, such as phone numbers, medical history, prescriptions, etc. in case you lose power and your devices die.
  • Create a well-stocked first aid kit, personalized for any specific medical needs
  • Maintain a power source. Keep extra batteries on hand for flashlights and emergency radios. I keep a mobile generator for short-term power outages so that at least I can keep my phone charged. I set a monthly reminder to charge it to make sure it’s fully charged in case of an emergency. It also came with solar panels as an alternative charging option. If you can afford it, a larger generator that can power medical devices could be a life-saving choice.
  • Create an evacuation plan for loved ones, taking into consideration their medical needs. Make note of local resources that may be able to assist with things like transportation, temporary housing, etc.
  • Don’t forget about the pets. Loved ones may be reluctant to leave their home if they think they will have to leave their pets behind. Research pet-friendly shelters and hotels.
  • Make sure everyone understands their role in a severe weather event, from care recipients, to hands-on caregivers to long distance caregivers. Communication is key.
  • Have a plan in place if your loved one’s home is destroyed by a severe weather event.
  • Make sure your loved one’s medical care wishes are documented.

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